I’m sure at some point during your marriage, you’ve made the comment “if I only knew then what I know now.” Marriage is a learning process with lots of highs and lows. There’s no question that being married comes with its own set of challenges, but it’s also full of rewards. In this blog post, we’re going to discuss marriage goals and provide a peek into your husband’s mind. Hopefully, this will help wives better understand their husbands and strengthen their marriages.
Whose idea was it to start making Marriage Goals
I was looking up ideas to write about and I came across a few posts on steps for creating marriage goals and how it can help. When I read through a few of them I realized this is a concept that made no sense to me and therefore must have been something that would be my wife’s idea. So I will write a post from a husband’s point of view to maybe help all the wives out there.
What the husband thinks about marriage goals
My first thought when I read the term marriage goals as I thought we already had that. In my mind, we are working on our marriage goals all the time. They are to keep the kids alive, keep the house note paid, and try to not drive each other crazy. I say that in a joking way but I also say it because if a wife is going to bring this up she needs to understand where her husband’s brain is. If this topic is brought up it will be out of left field and you will most likely not get the response you are looking for. Therefore you will feel frustrated and your husband will be confused.
How to bring this topic of Marriage Goals and get the reaction you want
Don’t!!!!! If you have to then realize that we have not been thinking about it at all. As far as we know our marriage is great and you asking about what our goals are will feel like we are being told something is wrong for the first time. So step one is to not turn over in bed and say hey what are our marriage goals. Instead, figure out in detail what the goals mean to you and what you think they are. Then once you have these thoughts organized in your brain start bringing up pieces of it as a question to start a conversation. For example, if it’s about money ask something safe like where did you think we would be now when we first got married. Then just let the conversation grow. This will open the door for saying something like do you think in five years we will be ______ and in the blank put in what you feel would make a great marriage goal for finance.
Learn each other’s love language
Another issue I have found when listening and talking about marriage and raising kids is understanding people’s love language. Not everyone shows or receives love the same way. One person may express love by buying gifts for their loved one. Another person may receive love by deeds. By these two people not understanding each other’s love language they will feel the other person isn’t showing them, love. When you take a step back you realize that both people are trying to show love but they are missing the mark. This is another big piece of the marriage goals conversation. I may feel that we are doing great in all areas of marriage. If my wife tells me we are not and we need a marriage goal to fix it I would feel offended. So be aware of each other’s mindset.
What marriage goals do you have for yourselves and your spouse, and how do you plan on achieving them
Every couple has different goals for their marriage, but one of our goals is to never go to bed angry. That doesn’t mean we don’t have arguments or disagreements, but we’ve made a commitment to always try to resolve them before going to bed. That way, we can start each day with a clean slate. We don’t always succeed, but it’s something we strive for. Another goal is to keep the romance alive. We try to do little things for each other to let the other person know they’re loved and appreciated.
It doesn’t have to be anything big or expensive; it could be as simple as cooking dinner or buying a small gift. Whatever it is, it’s important to us that we make an effort to keep the spark alive in our marriage. Lastly, we want to be best friends. We want to be able to share everything with each other and confide in each other when we need someone to talk to.
To us, being best friends means being there for each other through thick and thin. We know we can always count on each other, no matter what. These are just some of the goals we have for our marriage. We know that achieving them won’t be easy, but we’re up for the
What are some things that you think go through your husband’s mind on a daily basis (or during certain situations)
There are a few things that you probably think go through your husband’s mind on a daily basis. First, he probably thinks about how he can get out of doing the dishes (or any other chore that he doesn’t want to do).
Second, he probably wonders how much more TV he can watch before you start to get mad. Third, he probably thinks about what he’s going to have for dinner (and whether or not you are going to make it for him).
And fourth, he probably wonders how many more times he can tell you that he loves you before I start to get suspicious.
What’s really going on in your Husbands mind
I’m sorry to tell you but it’s not nearly as elaborate as you are thinking. For the most part, he is thinking about nothing. Or if not nothing, not a thing that you will find important. He isn’t thinking about marriage goals or anything like that. Now if you bring it up then he will start to think about it, while you make him.
OK, I will agree that your husband may be thinking about how to get out of doing something around the house. In my mind, it is usually, “Shoot she is doing the dishes, and I know I should have been helping. All I want to do is take a break though it’s been a long day. Maybe I should go and ask if she needs help and hope that she says no.
Conclusion
It seems pretty unanimous that marriage goals are a good way to keep your relationship on track, but it was also interesting to get into the minds of our husbands and see what they think about this whole concept.
From agreeing with us that having goals is a great idea, to wondering why we can’t just “wing it” as they do, these little snippets gave us some great insight into how our husbands tick.
I was looking up ideas to write about and I came across a few posts on steps for creating marriage goals and how it can help. When I read through a few of them I realized this is a concept that made no sense to me and therefore must have been something that would be my wife’s idea. So I will write a post from a husband’s point of view to maybe help all the wives out there.
