First, let me say I love my wife and I love how her mind works. I realized a long time ago that our brains do not work the same. My brain works in what I feel is an organized and logical manner. I focus on one thing at a time and solve that thing before I move on to another one. My wife’s brain on the other is more like the internet. She is focused on everything at all times and instead of solving it, she works on feelings. Some things feel ok and others don’t. So for example it doesn’t matter how much money we have in the bank we are broke or doing ok based on how she feels about things at the time when it crosses her mind.
During hurricane Ida, my family and I had to evacuate from Louisiana to Texas. After we were settled down my wife and I had the conversation below and I knew I had to share it. I hope you have such great conversations with your spouse.
We are at the cabin and getting ready to go do a few things. I wasn’t sure if I should wear shoes or flip-flops because I wasn’t sure about what kind of activities they had for us to do. I knew my wife did know what was around because she had researched and picked the place. So here is how the conversation went.
Me:
Hey, Babe should I wear shoes or flip-flops?
Her:
There was a guy swallowed by a whale. Then he was spitting out. He was a lobster fisherman. He was fishing and then it went black. Then it spits him out and he was ok.
I laughed at her a little (not enough for her to get mad and then said; Babe should I wear shoes or flip-flops.
She then shows me a picture of the guy in the hospital. Then she tells me she wants lobster.
So I went in shoes.
Now fast forward to a few days later.
My Daughter and I are talking about movies and what our favorite one is. We have been talking for about 20 mins and are explaining to each other why we picked the movie that we picked. My wife is sitting with us in the room the entire time. My daughter is 14 and of course is in the teen stage. So anytime she wants to talk to her parents we are there. This time I realized my wife was in her own world.
In the middle of the conversation, my wife looks up and says: There’s a mascot that’s a demon……. I don’t want to say goooooo demons! Then she looks back at her phone while my daughter and I look at each other and just start laughing.
In the end, I do understand her point though because it would feel strange to cheer for a demon but I will never be able to keep up with her brain. I always wonder how many comments she has rattled around in her brain that she doesn’t bless us with. I wish I could pour it out into a book. I think it would be a best seller. Moms wisdom on….. just about anything that’s going on.
I hope you have enjoyed this installment of real conversations with my wife. If you have any good ones you want to share and have added please send them to shane@howsbeingadad.com. Also if this made you laugh share it with us!
Also to my wife, I love you and I enjoy every thought that you share with me no matter how random.
